Thinking is easy, acting is difficult, and to put one's thoughts
into action is the most difficult thing in the world: Johann Wolfgang
von Goethe.
I remember sitting around bored in my buddy' Don's
studio on a cold winter morning in Chicago many years ago. We pretty
much had nothing to do. It was miserable outside. The wind was blowing
hard and we had a few feet of snow covering the ground. The roads had
been largely been cleared and cars were able to move about the streets,
but getting around certain places on foot was really for the hardcore
and the stupid. Mounds of snow from snows plows impeded foot traffic.
We
got restless, as we usually did when we got together, and looked at
each other with that 'What the H-- do we do now?" look on our faces. Don
was a great training partner; 7 years my junior, short, muscular and
strong. I used to hate trying to catch up with him on our mountain runs,
because he could power up hillsides. My own measure of success was
knowing he could never beat me in flat full-out distance. We were very
competitive and fed off the others energy. 23 years after meeting him,
we still talk about fitness, and our passion for working out.
I
said to him, "It's so cold we should go for a run!" I half-heartedly
meant it. He shouted back "Yeah! that would be cool!" I think he
half-heartedly meant it. After going back and forth shouting, "Yeah!"
Yeah!" "Yeahhh!" We got so pumped up and decided to do it. Two obnoxious
guys psyching each other up. We got up and peeled out the door and at
the last-minute decided to wear only our shorts, socks and shoes as
protective gear. Bare-chested was cool.
Commit to an Action
Getting
started was the hardest part of the run but we committed to an action.
We tore down N. Sheridan Road and towards Lakeshore Park Drive. The wind
cut at our faces and I felt the chill on my nose and hands. We decided
to go as far as we could. We would head towards the Navy Pier, circle
around and then return. We carried no money for a hot drink or a cab
ride back in case we experienced failure. In our dumb minds, failure
wasn't an option and we were doing something cool. I wasn't a spring
chicken anymore. I did plenty of snow runs but never distance and
without cold-weather protection. The pain in my chest, face and fingers
was becoming apparent. The Navy Seals can teach people a lot about how
it feels to freeze.
Choose Your Attitude
Loads of drivers
honked their horns or gave us the thumbs up sign. An occasional driver
would shout out his window and say something like, "Hey
dumb*&%&! Put some clothes on!" But that only motivated us more.
Several runners were out too, dressed in caps, mufflers, gloves, leg
warmers and heavy jackets. We received odd looks, smiles and laughter.
Some flipped us the bird. Thanks Chicago!
We hopped, high-footing
one shoe after the other, in areas where the snow came up above our
knees. Don cut around the edge of frozen Lake Michigan and I followed
behind. Our feet were wet and cold. The sun was our saving grace. It got
a bit warmer and the wind died down at times but I couldn't feel any
sensation in my hands, chest or face. Moving my lips was difficult. I'm
sure Don felt the same but we pressed on. My chest color was
light-purple from frost nip and I couldn't easily open or close my
hands. We were too far out to turn back. I didn't want to.
We'd
circled around the Navy Pier, past staring tourists and hit our loop
point. I was catching up quick to Don. Near the lake he took a good,
running 15 foot leap off a stone wall, gave a Tarzan shout, landed
flat-footed while dropping into a shoulder-roll on a snow bank and got
up. He took off running and never looked back at me. I was stunned.
Visualize Success and Don't Panic
I
got to the edge and looked down. It was far. Don knew the terrain
because Chicago was his stomping grounds but I didn't. My thought was,
"With my luck I'm going to break my ankle landing in rocks and stones."
Don didn't look back. His shape shrank into the distance. I stepped back
a good distance, sprinted and took a strong plunge off the side, trying
to land exactly where he landed. I yawped, hit the ground, completed my
crappy ninja-roll and stood up happy. No broken bones. 20 plus miles
more and we would be home. I was sick for weeks with the flu.
Over
the years, we've done many longer runs; gotten pinned in the woods
during a storm, ran out of water during a speedy run through the
Saratoga Gap, and we once lost our map. This run had its own challenges
and was very fun. I was with my best mate. The conditions were horrible,
our protection was limited, we had no resources but the challenge
helped us further realize how tight we were. Tonight, after writing this
article I called Don. We laughed out loud. In 3 days he was headed to
Arizona to continue training for a major event.
Good memories.
Do Something Difficult
Doing
difficult things makes you a stronger person. It means intentionally
taking an action toward something you know will not be easy and yet the
end result will be increased confidence. You'll have the self-knowledge
that you can do the things you say you can do. When people are thrust
into a survival situation one of the biggest problems they'll have is
how to cope mentally with the situation. Psychologists agree there will
be a lot of conflicting emotions to deal with.
I don't always feel
like doing the things I need to do such as work, clean, or exercise.
Thankfully I'm married to a wife who is a nutritionist and fitness
instructor and keeps me healthy. She encourages me to work out and stay
disciplined to achieve our goals. Many studies show that it's not the
physically strong or those with the best equipment who make it through a
disaster. Those who survive are ready to handle the unexpected and are
willing to adapt to changing situations. They choose to be optimistic,
don't panic, and dig deep for inner strength by finding the important
things worth fighting for; family, country, God, whatever it is... have a
purpose.
You can't choose your situation but you can choose your
attitude to it. You cannot choose whether you are going to be kidnapped
or in a terrorist attack. One way to get an attitude shift is by
training your mind just as you train your body, incrementally. And you
do this by doing difficult things. Get out of your comfort zone. This
way when disaster strikes you'll be more prepared mentally to handle
it.You'll have an easier time not panicking, staying upbeat and less
likely to mentally flag.
In Conclusion
Commit to an Action.
Take a sober look at the situation. Make a checklist of your equipment,
location, distance to the nearest help, weather etc.Make a decision.
Don't wait around procrastinating.
Choose Your Attitude. Don't
waste energy worrying. Choosing to stay optimistic is a skill you can
develop. Every time you do something difficult you build confidence. And
every time you build a well-honed survival skill you build confidence.
Visualize
Success. Imagine some of the difficult things you did before and how
good it felt to do complete it. Imagine the steps you took to finish
that task and this can prevent you from panicking.
Don't Panic.
Panicking can cause you to do irrational things. Not being calm can
worsen your situation. Getting out of panicking is taking steps to
assess the situation logically. Are you alive? Yes. Do you have food?
Yes. Are you bleeding? Go through a checklist and realize that as long
as you're breathing there's hope.
Keep Doing Difficult Things.
Keep finding ways to challenge yourself. Learn knew survival skills by
reading books and then practicing to see if they work. Take classes
offered in your area. There are running clubs, shooting clubs, martial
arts clubs where you can pair up with a mentor and learn how to improve
your skills. Surround yourself with people who are willing to do
difficult things.
Lastly, have fun. But know, one day everything you know may be used for a serious moment in your life.
Some Semi-Difficult things to Do:
Rappelling for the first time from a high distance, especially if you are afraid of heights.
Sitting for hours without moving in the brush. Patience can drive a person crazy.
Long distance hiking with a heavy pack and see if you can keep up with seasoned ruckers.
Carrying a heavy stone or log on your shoulder while traveling over hills a good distance.
Boxing someone stronger and faster than you.
Parachuting or Skydiving for the first time.
Fasting for a week while exercising. Go below your needed caloric intake.
Eat foods that you are not used to, either raw or cooked (insects, fish, snails etc.) that give you a gag reflex.
Run rapids in a canoe.
Asking someone for help.
Give those things a try. Hang around people who are motivated, positive and encouraging. You will go far.